How do you deal when life starts contracting on you? I’m talking about the times when you’re injured, going through a break up of some kind, or when you stop growing / engaging as much in a way that you once were.
One thing I like to do is redirect. If I can’t move, I can meditate. If some of my relationships have stagnated or ended, give to those that haven’t. If I’m broke, I spend my time reading (library!), working more, or doing free things outdoors.
If my business is slowing down, perhaps I focus on creating something new, streamlining, marketing more, or meditating on my Why and my Uniquely Excellent thing and doing more of it, better.
I think it’s good to recognize these phases are a natural part of the cycles of life! Baron Baptiste says “If you aren’t growing, you’re dying.” Is that true? I find my business brain believes it, but my human side wonders if there is some life wisdom getting lost.
I also think it’s normal to be sad or mourn contractions or endings somewhat. Just don’t wallow in it. Keep your eyes on the prize. There is always something in your life that isn’t contracting. Or as Semisonic so wisely said in the 00’s, “Every new beginning comes from some other beginnings end.”
I have been dealing with health challenges lately that don’t allow me to do much more than lay on the couch sometimes. How much better I feel when I just accept it and use it as a chance to meditate, read, and rest. I just spent a week with many wellness business entrepreneur friends who were in various stages of contraction and expansion within their businesses. I want to hug every single one and remind them to keep their heads up and keep on keeping on! You ARE improving the world already! This pic is of me and one inspiring, bad ass entrepreneur, Philesia, owner of Romance & Dance, after a week of no sleep and focusing on our Why.
Eckhart Tolle has a lot to say about this in A New Earth, one of my favorite books of all time. Here are some great nuggets I stumbled upon this week:
“Astronomers have discovered evidence to suggest that the universe came into existence fifteen billion years ago in a gigantic explosion and has been expanding ever since. Not only as it been expanding, but it is also growing in complexity and becoming more differentiated. Some scientists also postulate that this movement from unity to multiplicity will eventually become reversed. The universe will them stop expanding and begin to contract again and finally return to the unmanifested, the inconceivable nothingness out of which it came – and perhaps repeat the cycles of birth, expansion, contraction, and death again and again. For what purpose? “Why does the universe go to all the bother of existing?” asks physicist Stephen Hawking, realizing at the same time that no mathematical model could ever supply the answer.”
“The two movements of contraction and expansion are reflected in the universe in many ways, such as in the incessant expansion and contraction of your heart, as well as the inhalation and exhalation of your breath. They are reflected in cycles of sleep and wakefulness, birth and death.”
“And then, just when you thought you made it or that you belong here, the return movement begins.”
Boom. Just like that, when you think you got this, life reminds you not to get too cocky, doesn’t it? XO – Roxy